We all watch porn, if you say you don’t, quit playing. I watch porn when I’m single, dating, or whenever the hell I want because it’s my pleasure! You can still have a healthy and sex filled relationship while enjoying the luxury of porn.
A lot of people out here think porn is for freaks, perverts, or people not getting laid. The people who think this are probably sexually repressed and don’t own their pleasure, so they will make others feel bad for owning it. Ignore these people. And if you are one of them reading this, try to open your mind and realize I don’t give a f**k!
Yes, some people who watch porn ARE freaks, but this whole “Ew porn is so nasty and wrong I don’t watch that” is a little dated. We are young, mindful, & open individuals. It’s time we get over this shame of enjoying porn. We have many misconceptions around sex and pleasure, and this is one of them. You deserve pleasure. You deserve to watch that sexy video with your vibrator. Embrace your body. Embrace the tingly feeling in your clit from climaxing.
Embracing your body takes time and we must be gentle when doing so. Watching free porn, such as videos from PornHub or other similar sites, do not help us embrace our bodies. These porn sites are filled with sexist and racist videos that play on our insecurities and stereotypes. The mainstream porn is highly unrealistic, I mean seriously – what woman can cum within 5 seconds all sexy just from dick? God bless you ladies who can. These sites also show a slim variety of body shapes, labia shapes, boob sizes, color of labia, and basically any other asset on a female. It’s hard to find a video that is realistic and speaks to our pleasure.
These videos are also produced and directed by losers. They are typically older white men who have no idea what a female truly wants and they focus mostly on male pleasure. What a surprise! Not only do they show an unrealistic portrayal of female pleasure, but they also don’t treat/ pay the porn performers fairly. These performers are sex workers, they deserve to be paid and treated with respect and decency. Free porn generally does not give these performers any % of the money made from the site…
On top of all of this, many sex performers are trafficked into working for the big porn industries. So when you click on that free porn link, you’re not doing the industry much good. Free porn can also lead to addictions. When something is free and easily accessible, it’s easier to over consume and slightly abuse.
My solution for all of this? Paying for porn and learning more about ethical porn use.
Paying for porn means you are actively working against the exploitation, violence, and unfair conditions for these performers. It does NOT mean you are some porn addicted freak. Ethical porn sites make you pay because they are actually paying their workers and creating content that is more realistic and of higher quality. Paid porn sites aren’t here to play. And that’s how it should be.
There are also benefits of paying for porn. You can customize your content, and sometimes even request a certain type of video. Since you are paying for the service it’s more likely that the creator is passionate about their work. Most free porn site creators don’t care for creating meaningful content. Paid creators make more unique, helpful, and pleasure focused content. Not to mention, a lot of these ethical porn sites are women led. So hopefully, female pleasure is more of a focus.
Like I mentioned prior, mainstream porn does not show sex in a healthy, realistic, and consensual way. Ethical porn is here to challenge that. The performers are given an environment free of violence and abuse. So many performers on mainstream porn sites are abused and violated of their rights.
If you are new to this convo don’t worry. And if you can’t afford to pay for porn, I suggest not indulging in it at all. Porn is a luxury. If you don’t see the problem with clicking on free porn sites over and over, you must have not read this through.
Here are some ethical porn sites to start exploring! From these sites you can see that not all porn is gender restricted and sexually corrupt. These sites show more than just a scene of dominant cis- men and submissive cis-women.
Queerporn.tv – For a monthly fee, you can access inclusive content made by all experienced sex workers! There are multiple memberships available, from 27$ a month to 5 day’s for 20$. The videos are hot. All body shapes are shown, colors of skin, fantasies, BDSM scenes, pussy licking, whatever you imagine! You will def see a difference in this site vs PornHub.
Pinklabel.tv – This cute site. Ugh. Independent erotic and adult films. This is like the artsy site for porn lovers. You can rent or buy films, or become a monthly member. The directors/ performers on this site are fabulous. You’ll want to stay in every night and pick a new film to watch, they are that good.
Brightdesire.com – This site offers feminist porn for women and men. The content is fun, flirty, and focuses on your pleasure. What a concept! You can feel the realness in these videos. And that’s a turn on.
Trenchcoatx.com – One of my favs. It’s easy to scroll through and the quality of these videos is insane. It’s like high def x 10. I can see every pubic hair. It’s amazing. It’s also really affordable! There’s a wide variety of videos from kinks, couple play, solo play, etc.
Oactually – “Celebrating women’s pleasure” is their claim. Uhhhh hell yeah! I swear, if you start looking at these sites that actually produce good content you’re gonna be like why didn’t I watch porn sooner? Stay away from Erika Lust’s section on there tho.
Ifeelmyself.com – Just what it sounds like! This site offers a lot of self play videos. So, masturbating solo with toys. If you like watching sexy women get off, this is the site!
These are just a few of the ethical porn sites out there. This industry is growing and I’m excited to see the switch. Porn can be a pleasure filled activity and it can make us feel empowered. I don’t blame you for feeling grossed out by mainstream porn. It is gross….
Check out these sites and just see the difference yourself! There is no shame in enjoying porn. Embrace this sexual activity and if someone makes you feel uncomfy about consuming porn, tell em to go play with themselves or something.